There are many demands from teachers, school staff, friends and family during adolescence, and you might quickly feel like you fall short of those demands. Over time, it’s easy to find yourself with low self-esteem and little self confidence. Or you might not even like yourself. Sure, loving yourself isn’t easy during adolescence, but you can change that!
Self esteem or self-belief, which are results of loving yourself, could be defined as having confidence in yourself. It’s having confidence in your abilities and having respect for who you are inside and out. In order to begin to feel good about yourself, you’ve got to get to know yourself. Knowing who you are will give you the opportunity to love the uniqueness of who you are.
Here are some suggestions to do that:
- Be honest with yourself.
- Figure out your strengths and weaknesses.
- Don’t beat yourself up over your weaknesses.
- Don’t compare yourself to others.
- Try each day to accept yourself just the way you are.
- Set realistic goals for yourself.
- Try to get the most out of your strengths without setting unrealistic demands of yourself.
- Celebrate your achievements.
- Trust your own feelings.
- Take it one day at a time.
- Journal to get to know your thoughts and feelings.
- Spend time thinking about what you want to do after high school (travel, get a job, go to college)
- Discover what you’re good at and keep refining your skills.
- Notice and change any thoughts that are unkind towards yourself.
- Ask your teachers, close friends, and parents to share their perception of you.
- Spend time with those who appreciate you.
- Spend time with those who understand you.
- Turn to your parents to feel safe and supported.
- Be creative to get to know your inner expressions.
Remember that those who do not have a high self esteem can be vulnerable to loneliness, depression, or anxiety. If you don’t have a high level of self-esteem, it’s important to try develop it. Anything that can assist you with getting to know yourself can also help you have more appreciation for yourself. Even getting to know your own weaknesses can give you insight about who you are. If you’re ever required to do something you’re not good at, admitting your weakness can in fact be a certain kind of strength.
Experiencing self-love isn’t easy but sometimes simply saying that you want to change the way you feel about yourself can make the difference. With that intention, the support from friends and family, as well as following some of the suggestions above, you might be able to turn self-hatred into self-love. Remember too that most people struggle with some form of poor self esteem. You’re not the only one.
However, if you feel that your low self-esteem is getting the best of you, let your parents know that you want to get professional support. Working with a therapist or counselor can also help you with finding love for yourself.